You Will Wear What I Tell You To Wear

I believe that my bridesmaids and their attire will be the one area of my wedding where my horns are sure to come out and the Bridezilla in me will make herself known. I want my bridesmaids to be comfortable in their bridesmaid’s dresses as well as look good, but my version of look good.

Since I will be having a summer wedding, I want my bridesmaids to be in light-weight, cocktail dresses that both flatter and represent the beautiful season of summer. There needs to be a certain sophisticated feel to the dresses as well that’s still fun and free flowing. I am currently stuck between three colors: lapis, amethyst, and platinum. It is important to be mindful of the various body-types and comfort levels of your bridesmaids and thus another problem is thrown into the mix.

While conversing with Ruth a David’s Bridal Associate she commented that “Vera Wang is the only distributor of the amethyst bridal dress color.” No problem you would think, but then she commented that “Certain Vera Wang styles would not be flattering for the curvier woman for it would add more emphasis to her lower half.” There is also the matter of cost when choosing Vera, but since I bought my wedding dress through David’s Bridal my bridesmaids get a $20 discount. Here are my favorite designs of White by Vera Wang.

According to the Knot Bridesmaid Handbook, “You have the right to weigh in on your dress. You also have the right to hope with all your heart that the bride chooses one that you find less than terrifying. However, in the event your dream does not come true, you have no right to complain for a single second.” I completely agree with the Knot, but in the same token they should believe in my fashion prowess and know that I would never make them look bad, especially if they have to be in my pictures for all time. Surround yourself with beautiful people and the pictures will always be wall worthy.

“The right to veto cruel and unusual underwear: a Wonderbra that gives you porn-star cleavage, Spanx that cut off your circulation,” is not a part of the deal and I cannot in good conscious agree with the Knot Bridesmaid Handbook. If I have to be caged into a corset for 8 hours then they should be able to handle cruel and yet appropriate under garments. It is only fair and since it’s my day they will heed to my reasonable demands.

The Knot Bridesmaid Handbook also notes that bridesmaids “shall not be forced by the bride to permanently alter your appearance for the sake of looking good in the wedding pictures. This includes, but is not limited to, dyeing your hair, removing tattoos, or getting a nose job.” I take this right to mean that I can force them to alter their hair with weaves and extensions. As well as I must point out that there are temporary hair dyes that indeed do not permanently alter the physical appearance and thus my sister will be going back to a brunette instead of a flaming red head.


There will be bridesmaids bootcamp. It maybe rude or even down right mean, but you will look fit and designed to please by the time you walk down the aisle. Mrs.Gina said that "It's not rude. Just make sure not to hurt anyones feelings." I'll set a challenge for my bridesmaids, if they can complete a whole kickboxing routine then I will say nothing about being fit for the wedding.

We Can Have Our Cake and Eat It Too

A wedding cake is a very special addition at any wedding. It is the centerpiece of the wedding even with glamorous table decorations abound and a beautiful couple waiting to take center stage. I want the only thing my guest ooh and ah about to my new husband and I.

Granted, I still want my cake to be elegant, cheque, and simple. As a bridezilla on a budget, I also want it covered in calla lilies real or edible. The love of my life left everything in my hands on two stipulations: one he prefers cream cheese icing or butter cream icing and two that the cake topper be a traditional bride and groom. No problem. Right? Wrong! We are an interracial couple and I am a very picky person when it comes to details and finding the perfect interracial cake topper is a pain in my slimming derriere.

Growing up I loved to watch cake shows like Cake Boss, Amazing Wedding Cakes, and more. I even met Buddy from Cake Boss. He was really nice. Reality hit when I discovered that some of those cakes price could range into the thousands. I love cake just as much as the next person, but budget being set there’s no way I will be spending that much on a cake most people would rather look at than eat.

So, we decided that we wanted to do a spin on the traditional wedding cake and have a two tier centerpiece cake with cupcakes from the Cupcake Shoppe in Raleigh, NC surrounding it. Those cupcakes with by paired with another wedding favor(calla lily picture frames) for guests to take home if they like. I love the cupcakes at the Cupcake Shoppe, especially the “You Mocha Me Crazy.”

Cinda’s Creative Cakes may have stolen the win from the Cupcake Shoppe. I wish I could share a piece of their cake with the audience, so they could understand the decadence of those small samples I had at the North Hills Wedding Affair. The cinnamon swirl cake was so moist it....left me speechless as I devoured the rest of the sample. My aunt took her first bite, her eyes bulged and all she could say was “This is so good. I need to get this recipe.” The icing was sweet and spicy, but not too overpowering for those with sensitive taste buds.

This is the perfect example of my wedding cake.

My mother, aunt Pattie, and I sampled all the flavors available and just fell head over heels in love with the bakers at Cinda’s Creative Cake. I won’t admit this to my aunt, but the cake was better than her world famous “Shock-it to Me Cake.” Best of all they met the my Reuben’s desire for buttercream icing. I browsed Cinda's Creative Cake's gallery and found the perfect cake. All you have to do is change the green to lapis, loose the roses, add a black girl on top, and that's my cake.

Then there was the issue with finding interracial cake toppers that didn’t make either of us look like a chocolate bar or a piece of chalk respectively. After searching high and low I found the perfect wedding toppers at thatsmytopper.com. Although, I think I will invest in some acrylic paint after my favorite supervisor jokingly suggested, “You should just take a crayon and add to it.” Not a bad suggestion in my book, I have a steady hand and love making things unique. Plus, Thatsmytopper offers mix and match cake toppers that make it easy to choose exactly what you desire.

Mix and Match Cake Toppers

I want this one.